IS BEATING A DEAD HORSE THE SAME AS SWINGING A DEAD CAT?

I've been picking on Golden for using the term "swinging a dead cat," but I'm doing much the same thing by talking and talking and talking about my approaching surgery.  Honestly, I can't help it - I'm pretty scared about what's coming and even more scared about the aftermath and all the painful rehab.  So, I'm "beating a dead horse" by talking about it until everyone else is sick to death of hearing about it.

 

So to hell with it, here I go again!  The countdown has now reached two weeks and five days.  Next week, there's nothing on my huge "to-do list" that I compiled painstakingly from all the various lists I was given by the hospital and my doctor's office and even the nurse who is supposed to be my "representative" during this whole process.  I think this idle week will probably be the worst because I'll have more time to worry and dread what's coming.  On the other hand, Hubby seems to have adjusted better to his huge role in the entire process, bless him.  I still don't look for him to be a kind and gentle caretaker.  I may have to unfold my walker and run away.  Well, limp away, anyhow.  I got him to say that if I have to come straight home from the hospital, he willl hire some help for around the house.  But I have a feeling that he will back out of that the way his own father keeps backing out of going to a nursing home!

 

Speaking of Dear Old Dad, we took him some lunch and ate with him today.  He told me several horrid stories about when Mom had her knee replacement - all the terrible things the rehab lady did to Mom, how much pain she had, and how easily she recovered all on her own once he got her home again.  At least he waited until Hubby was in the bathroom to tell me all that stuff.  I frowned and commiserated with him.  A person can't actually argue with him because he's deaf as a post!

 

He did tell a funny story about getting a call from a friend of his this morning.  He told his friend to hold on while he hunted for the TV remote to turn down the sound.  Dad set his phone on his lap while he looked for the remote and it slid off onto the floor.  He could hear his friend on the line saying, "Are you there?  Hello!  Hello!  Are you coming back?  Is something wrong?" etc., etc., etc.  Dad hadn't seen the phone fall, so he was hunting all around on his lap and on the seat cushions of his huge recliner.  By the time Dad figured out that he had dropped the phone on the floor, his friend had given up and gone away.

 

On the serious side, though, Dad doesn't sound good.  He has a really juicy cough and he's wheezing heavier than I've ever heard him before.  He has a doctor's appointment in less than a week so Hubby can mention that.  If the doctor asks Dad, he will just say he's fine.  I swear, he'll be saying he's fine all the way to the funeral home!

 

Okay, I've talked myself down from the tree for now.  Thanks for listening, those of you who've made it this far!

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Comments (47)

  1. jjj22

    the things we most fear NEVER happen!! you will do just fine. have faith in yourself. and I like beating a dead horse better. more southern I guess. of course throwing a ca t in the laundry fire is pretty good too.

    October 31, 2016
    1. flipmaster

      the cat phrase is insulting

      October 31, 2016
      1. jjj22

        but it’s true.

        October 31, 2016
      2. GoldenPig2012

        flipmaster………………….ha ha ha ha ha

        November 04, 2016
  2. flipmaster

    I think the phrase swinging a dead cat is a crude and obnoxious statement

    October 31, 2016
    1. GoldenPig2012

      Oh, and “beating a dead horse” is………………much more polite and less obnoxious? ha ha ha ha ha

      November 04, 2016
      1. Bettymom

        No, it isn’t, that was the point I was trying to make. Evidently, I missed my own point! How many people do you know who can do that??

        November 05, 2016
        1. GoldenPig2012

          Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha…………I do, all the time. So what? I re-group and try again. We’re human, darlin’……………………..it happens.

          November 08, 2016
  3. noahbody

    You are scared. Of course you are. It isn’t every day one gets their knee replaced. I wouldn’t let dad’s horror stories get to you. My dad had both his knees done and my mom had one. Neither had any horror tales to tell and both recovered just fine. In fact my dad still hunts deer meaning he climbs trees with his bow in hand to get to his tree stand and he has no problems. My mom said the knee was light years easier than when she had her hip replaced. I think you will do just fine. Rehab IS a bit of work though but it all comes down to your attitude. That’s the key thing.

    October 31, 2016
    1. Walkaboutman

      Right on tony,he said it all.Good luck Betty and Gods speed.

      October 31, 2016
      1. noahbody

        Thanks.

        October 31, 2016
      2. Bettymom

        Thanks, Walkabout.

        November 01, 2016
  4. Munkyman

    Dead Horse, Dead Cat… sounds like a Turduckin that no one wants to eat.

    October 31, 2016
    1. GoldenPig2012

      Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha………….eye roll, chuckle……………..we don’t eat dead cats and dead horses, mostly…………

      November 04, 2016
      1. Munkyman

        I’ve had both & I’m pretty sure I’ve had dog too.

        November 04, 2016
        1. Bettymom

          Yummy.

          November 05, 2016
          1. Munkyman

            Surprisingly, yes very.

            November 05, 2016
            1. Bettymom

              I haven’t done a lot of adventurous eating. I’ve had venison (yuck), squirrel, (yuck), ‘possum, (yuck) and reindeer (quite good if you didn’t think about it too hard). I suppose I may have had one of the other things without knowing it. We did travel around in Mexico quite a bit!

              November 05, 2016
            2. Munkyman

              The horse was the only one I knew I was eating at the time. Never had possum, probably never will. I love well prepared venison & I make a mean squirrel gravy, learned it in the Boy Scouts.

              November 05, 2016
            3. Munkyman

              Moose is the most amazing red meat I’ve ever had.

              November 05, 2016
        2. GoldenPig2012

          Hell, meat is meat. Pour some gravy on it and I’m in!

          November 11, 2016
          1. Munkyman

            November 11, 2016
          2. Munkyman

            I’m not saying I’d never eat possum. I’m saying I’ve been hungry, but never that hungry & I hope like hell I never get that hungry. Ewww. No interest in eating scorpions either.

            November 11, 2016
            1. GoldenPig2012

              Hey, I KNOW hungry. I’ve eaten alligator, squirrel, rattlesnake and those all-time bottom feeders: catfish and lobster. Honey, eating is eating, done deal.

              November 11, 2016
            2. Munkyman

              Hell I’ve eaten all of the above for fun.

              November 11, 2016
  5. TomasSISI

    My S-i-l just had one knee done this last spring and has another scheduled for next spring. It is helping him tremendously. But he made all of us watch horror films of what they do to the knee. This was to make sure we would be sympathetic with his pain. He wouldn’t use the walker except when the in-home nurses came to make sure he did his exercises. He used the wall in the house for support and the cane when shopping for a month. Or the electric cart the larger stores have for major shopping.

    The bad part is my daughter has found out she needs to have one knee done and has flatly refused now. She has decided she can limp along 8 more years when she will retire. Bad, Bad S-i-l. He has told her the in home exercises reduce the pain by 15 percent each week but she still refuses to go with it. Beat a dead horse all you want but don’t scare others away from a needed procedure.

    October 31, 2016
    1. TomasSISI

      CORRECTION: She has NOT chickened out she says. Only putting it off while she gets used to her new job. She is an Master Social Worker and had worked for Hospice for several years. She is now doing crisis control counselling at the hospital for those inclined toward violence or self destrucion.

      October 31, 2016
  6. belladora

    Your fear and anxiety are perfectly normal. To express that in words is good for you. Let the words fly and the feelings go. I write a lot of things just to relieve anxiety. I do not care what people think of it. I am here for me. I told you what I know of knee replacements. You have willpower and will do the work necessary to get back on your feet. You have what it takes lady, to get through this. I’d be worried of you weren’t afraid. Beat the dead horse and it hurts no one. Just write freely. It is your post.

    October 31, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      Thanks, and it does make me feel a little better to talk about it.

      November 01, 2016
      1. belladora

        You should write, talk, discuss it. I believe in full disclosure if I am worried.

        November 02, 2016
  7. SEC

    If one was not anxious about entering an unknown there would be something missing in their make-up. prayers and love coming your way

    October 31, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      I’ve been told many times that there are lots of things missing in my make-up, but I just keep on keeping on. Thanks for the good wishes – much appreciated.

      November 01, 2016
  8. 4lorac

    you can beat or swig anything you want darlin, you do not offend me.pain/fear is real to those that go through it, watched the son try putting on his shoes this morning, ended up doing it for him..both of his knees are shot due to CKD…..Uric acid is destroying all his cartilage…….

    October 31, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      Holy cow! The poor kid. Can’t anything be done?

      November 01, 2016
  9. pittypat

    Not sure what it is called, but there is also a turkey stuffed with duck, stuffed with chicken, stuffed with quail! Turduckenqu? Turduckenail? Some day a parakeet and hummingbird will be added.

    October 31, 2016
  10. pittypat

    Turduckenailkeeting?

    November 01, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      Hahaha! I love that one!

      November 01, 2016
  11. notthinking

    Best of luck. Swing away, neither the cat nor the horse will mind.

    November 02, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      True enough. Everyone else, DUCK!

      November 02, 2016
  12. pathos

    No need to ask permission,just keep swingin baby!

    November 12, 2016
  13. Firewater

    A sentence once-heard and oft-repeated by me: “The horse is dead. Dismount.”

    November 13, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      Sounds like great advice.

      November 13, 2016
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  15. honestycounts

    Somewhat similiar but you don’t need help picking up the cat.

    December 19, 2016
    1. Bettymom

      I guess that’s so, but why would you pick up the dead horse? Wouldn’t you just stand there beside it?

      December 19, 2016
      1. honestycounts

        Good point

        December 19, 2016
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  17. kafkaphony

    TL;DR.

    January 02, 2017
  18. conscioussinceiremember

    NO. one is a horse and one is a cat. In life none of this matter. people make things matter to them.

    June 29, 2017